Author: Susan Jones                                                                               July 11, 2011        

Story:

I returned to our group yesterday fully convinced and very comfortable with the idea that I would not have to discuss this topic. However the ladies present let me know very quickly that they had not completed it while I was away. What a laugh we had because they saw right through me. I am just like any typical evangelical believer who squirms at the thought of having to talk about this topic. Why is it that the world can flaunt their opinions on this topic and we who have the honest truth about it are so hesitant to share that truth?

If you reading this carefully have you notice I haven’t mentioned the word once except to suggest it by the heading above. Can you take a stab at why I am so reluctant to say or even write the word sex? If you think it’s in my upbringing you are right. I am one of those who got from the church that this topic was taboo. I welcome your own opinion on why we are so hesitant to be open about this topic. Please respond by email.

Let me tell you that God is not at all against sex. It was all his idea and He created it with great benefits for both the husband and the wife who are committed to each other. Outside of a committed marital relationship sex is very destructive no matter what the world wants us to believe. Let me here review those principles we discussed yesterday. “First, sexual love is to be given freely (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), second, every sexual activity is to be an expression of love (Philippians 2:3-5), third, every intimate act is to be done with respect (Hebrews 13:4). These guidelines are from the book ‘Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti’ by Bill and Pam Farrel.

 How do we pray for our husbands in this area? We pray just as our study guide suggest. ‘Pray that God would bless his sexuality and make it an area of great fulfillment for him.’ Remember ‘The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality-the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.’ 1 Corinthians 7:4 (The Message)